Altruism Isn’t The Goal

We not only need to give, we also need to receive.

Somehow, somewhere, I began believing the lie that since friendships weren’t altruistic, they shouldn’t take priority in my life.

I believed the lie that life needed to be all about volunteering, serving, mentoring, counseling. In my desire to be a helper, I stopped showing my need for help. In my desire to carry others burdens, I wouldn’t admit my own. I twisted the idea of aiding in this world with the idea of saving it.

As I lived out that posture, I unintentionally slipped my friends to the back burner as I scorched myself in the name of “selflessly serving”.

The problem with this is, we cannot truthfully interact in this world from pure selfishness. Why? Because we are not God, we are not Savior.

We need friends just as much as they need us. We all require help, need counseling, necessitate mentoring.

We will never be fully altruistic because we are human. Altruism was never meant to be our goal, loving is.

Imperfect, messy, doing life together loving. Being loved, loving God, loving others. This is what life’s about. Giving and receiving.

So grab a cup of coffee with a friend this next week. Share your stuff together, the beautiful, the ugly, the bitter, the sweet. Be a listener and a talker. Be the wonderful humans you are together, limited, loving, needing, caring, and trust God to do the saving.


One Comment Add yours

  1. littlefieldmichael says:

    Good words. Thank you.

    *Michael E. Littlefield*


    *”Its a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door.*

    *You step into the road, and if you don’t keep your feet,*

    *there’s no knowing where you might be swept off to.”*

    *Bilbo Baggins*

    *J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings.*


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