Altruism Isn’t The Goal

We not only need to give, we also need to receive. Somehow, somewhere, I began believing the lie that since friendships weren’t altruistic, they shouldn’t take priority in my life. I believed the lie that life needed to be all about volunteering, serving, mentoring, counseling. In my desire to be a helper, I stopped showing…

Brave Enough to Enjoy

I stood alone on a heavily trafficked side street in Prague. I missed my family; I had not yet met up with my Czech friends, and I was emotionally struggling in this beloved city. Having visited Prague a dozen times, it was practically a second home, but the loneliness, that feeling was new to me….

No Unsabbathed Life

We expect hard work in our house. Early in our marriage, my husband went 5 years without taking a vacation for a variety of reasons. After five years of no time to slow down, no time to assess, no time to renew, we had some very serious talks about changing our rhythms. By the end…

Off the Pride Ride

The rollercoaster of pride keeps us measuring ourselves to others. “I am better than…” “I am worse than…” Versions of these sayings speed through our heads, self-promoting one second, self-destructing the next. But where pride leads us to compare, humility leads us to celebrate. If we can get off the pride ride just for a…

Christmas Cactus

The Christmas Cactus A small and powerful reminder that there is still hope and growth in the cold, dark seasons, just as there is in the warm, bright seasons. I guess it makes perfect sense that it blooms at Christmas time. A time when we remember: In the soft infant skin, in the wonder-filled infant…

Armed With a Playlist

As the bread ran low and our fruit drawer held a solitary lemon, I knew the time had come. The store is in my sights and I wonder if needing a musical distraction makes me weak.  Is it fighting or hiding?  Is it brave or pathetic?  The thoughts turn in my mind as I turn…