Altruism Isn’t The Goal

We not only need to give, we also need to receive. Somehow, somewhere, I began believing the lie that since friendships weren’t altruistic, they shouldn’t take priority in my life. I believed the lie that life needed to be all about volunteering, serving, mentoring, counseling. In my desire to be a helper, I stopped showing…

Off the Pride Ride

The rollercoaster of pride keeps us measuring ourselves to others. “I am better than…” “I am worse than…” Versions of these sayings speed through our heads, self-promoting one second, self-destructing the next. But where pride leads us to compare, humility leads us to celebrate. If we can get off the pride ride just for a…

Armed With a Playlist

As the bread ran low and our fruit drawer held a solitary lemon, I knew the time had come. The store is in my sights and I wonder if needing a musical distraction makes me weak.  Is it fighting or hiding?  Is it brave or pathetic?  The thoughts turn in my mind as I turn…

A Most Important Fight

The life journey mothers and daughters have, in all the ups and downs, is full of important memories and lessons.  For me, these became even more valuable the day my mom was diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease.  While the old memories were sweet,  I was bound and determined to also make amazing new ones, and make…

Table-Influence

When I think of “Influence” or “Success”, what do I see?  What do I envision? I see a stage in front of a large group of people being inspired.  I see a book with its millions of copies, changing the world.  I see a individual with a face-mic and thousands of followers nodding in agreement. I…

Sleepless Nights

I see your faces in my dreams.  I hear the gun shots and feel the screams.  I choke on the dirt kicked up in a panic as you calculate whether to say in line or run for cover.  You are wept for as I sleep.  Ripped away from home, wooed by lies, imprisoned by violence….

A U-Shaped Life

I am not much of a scientist.  I enjoyed science classes well enough, but I am nothing like my husband or son whom just thrive when engaging in anything science related.  However, I did study the subject enough to understand the dynamics of a hypothesis, an experiment, an anaylsis, and a conclusion.  And while I…